Even after having my second child, I always found it amusing to watch first time mom's. The way they interact with their baby and even the enthusiasm during their first and most special pregnancy. They're all special, for sure, but there is just something so unique and powerful about becoming a mother for the first time. I have to sit back and laugh sometimes at the tendencies of first time mom's. The worrying, the checking, the constant holding. I loved every minute of it with Nora, don't get me wrong. I was there too. And now I am a 3rd time mom-and how things have changed! I long for that first time feeling once again, and in reality I know that I won't ever feel that peaceful anticipation as I did with my first born.
Take a look at how my ideas of pregnancy have changed from first baby until now, for instance:
I wanted to look pregnant the day I found out. I felt like I was showing by 8 weeks and wanted everyone around me to see my invisible pooch as well. No one did and looking back at pictures I now see why. I gained 55 pounds of lovely, enjoyable baby weight and enjoyed every second of being much bigger and what felt like, much happier.
Had no choice but to look pregnant immediately because I hadn't lost much of my baby weight from Nora, considering she was only 5 months old when I got pregnant. I absolutely was showing by 10 weeks and still didn't mind much. I gained 50 more pounds with him and enjoyed all of the McDonald's #10's I could eat.
I'm now trying desperately to stay at my pre-pregnancy weight for as long as I possibly can. Am praying that no one is noticing these first couple of pounds I may be putting on due to the extreme hunger I am feeling. Hiding every part of my body that looks as if it may be changing at all. Am craving healthy food. Want to gain no more than 30 pounds. Period.
Those are just a few examples of how my mind has altered since being pregnant with my first child. Let alone my parenting styles. I know that it is all normal. As a mom you begin to adjust to life with more than one baby and no longer have the time to sit around and hold an infant for 9 hours a day while forsaking all other duties. It's just not reality. Although I long for moments when I could do that, I am so thankful that life has fallen into a groove. A pattern by which I now live by.
I am anxious to get further along in this pregnancy. To feel the baby moving and to see my body changing. I'm just not quite as anxious as I was the last 2 times. I even have to remind myself many times a day that I'm pregnant or other people have to help me remember. Thankfully I feel the same this time as I did with the redheads. I am not sick or nauseous. I am extremely tired, but I was tired anyway. I'm raising toddlers for goodness sake;) It feels normal to be pregnant. It feels natural to me. It could be because I will have spent 3 out of the last 5 years feeling this way. I somehow feel like a seasoned mother, although I know I am far from that. Maybe I feel like an experienced pregnant woman. I'm not sure how to describe it, but it's definitely far from first time mom. It's exciting but not new. It's refreshing but not all I focus on. It's a blessing. The greatest blessing!
So mom's everywhere--do share!
How was being a mom the second time around different from the first? What do you notice about new moms that is different from you as a mother now? Do you find it funny or think back to how you acted and remember how exciting it all felt?
I absolutely never want to damper some one's experience
e as a first time mom. It's the most precious time of your life! I loved it and pray you do as well! Cant wait to hear from all of you!